Let me guess, when you sit in your car to drive to a new destination you first set that destination on the map. You start with the end result, press the buttons and off you go following the route of driving.

But have you set your destination in life for next 3 or 5 years?
Have you ever clearly defined what success looks like for you? Or you are just drifting around in a hope that someday your will get somewhere nicer than you are today?

What exactly will the end result be in 3 years from now?

If you don’t, then how do you know what process to follow to achieve it?
Because process or route is based on the destination you take. Random processes will lead you to a random destination. To avoid such randomness, it’s better to start with the end result in a timeframe.

The most important skill in achieving your goals is how you think. Everything starts, and ends, in your mind. Your vision defines your path. Focusing first on the What rather than How helps to define destination clearly and then lay down the path. If you try to do it the other way around you will find a lot of constraints because the How is not fully known to you. Unknowns can be perceived as major road blocks to think big enough and imagine the end result.

The marvellous ability to form a picture of your final creation enables you to work from the knowledge rather from speculation.

- Robert Fritz

You can also think of your whole life as a constant creation. Most people don’t think like this but it is true. And every goal your set is just one element in this creative process.

These lessons and exercises will help you clarify what success looks like for you!

Exercise

Visualization

Oprah Winfrey, Jim Carrey, Bill Gates, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Michael Jordan, among many others attribute their success to creative visualisation.
Few examples from their stories:
You probably know a famous case when In 1985, Jim Carrey made an audacious decision: He wrote himself a $10-million check for “acting services rendered,” dated it 10 years in the future, and kept it in his wallet. Call it a coincidence, but in November 1995, Carrey found out he was cast in the movie “Dumb and Dumber” for — you guessed it — $10 million.
He was not just sitting and waiting for 10 million all 10 years. No he worked hard in mastering his skill.

Another example from Michael Jordan, where he said:

‘’I visualised where I wanted to be, what kind of player I wanted to become. I knew exactly where I wanted to go, and I focused on getting there.”

Jordan started to practice the mindset of visualisation, imagining himself making the game-winning shot well before he stepped on the basketball court. Jordan’s imagination fuelled his confidence, drive and belief in himself.

Visualisation creates a life like image in the subconscious mind. The more realistic you can make it the more your conscious mind will believe it, dramatically improving your chances of success and increasing your motivation.

It’s important to make your visualisation as bright and vivid as possible. Look at your result from many angles in your imagination, from inside, outside, above, below, close and distant.

Try to inject it with positive emotions. Imagine your goal has already been achieved by recalling times you felt incredible and insert this emotion into your visualisation. With powerful emotions backing your visualisation, your subconscious mind believes the image is true. Building emotional connection is essential to staying motivated towards your goal. It also creates new neurone connections that reflect future reality. And if you keep this neurone connection active, you will behave differently and as result create new reality.

Even better if you add movement to your visualisation. Compared to static images, imagining moving images improves memory recall. So if your goal is to get fitter and lose weight, visualise yourself doing an exercise you enjoy like dancing or running, adding plenty of movement and positive emotion into your imagination.

Now let’s practice and visualise YOUR own goal. You might close your eyes if you wish. Bring your goal to your mind. Make it vivid, descriptive, moving, emotive and feel good — get all your senses involved.


Pretend that it already happened and you are just reflecting from the future on how it happened. Feel full conviction and believe in yourself and this new reality.
See how you behave in this new reality. Look at this new future reality from different angles.
See what is your identity in this new reality. Who you are as a human. Feel contentment between your identity and this reality. Most people make critical mistake, they want something but they don’t believe in themselves.
If what you want to visualise seems too ambitious now then make a smaller goal which can give you greater belief in your ability to achieve it. Once achieved set another one.
To maximise the effect write down everything you visualised and experienced on paper. Hand writing also helps to wire certain neurones in your brain.

Ask yourself why this goal is deeply important for you.
How much time and energy you are ready and willing to invest in exchange for achieving this goal?

Are you really committed to achieving it? If not, then the chances of it happening are very low. But if you are committed, the chances of success are high. Write it down in clear, measurable form. Ideal goals should make you a better person during the process of achieving it. Once you are clear about the goal, forget about it , simply let it go and focus on the process and enjoy it. Maybe once in a month bring back the visual picture of your goal, reassess if it’s still relevant. Don’t feel attached to the outcome, instead immerse yourself in the flow of the process with joy and the outcome will come on its own as a bypass product.

There might be bumps on the way to your destination, just know that it’s normal and you will find your way.

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